Women destiny in a south Asian country is very uncertain and unknown. Unlike Western civilization women has restricted rights and limited liberty. Of course there are exceptions and those goes to the extreme of women becoming reaching government positions that are dreamed by men. For this occasion I want to mention one particular woman that has come from that very extreme full of boundaries and restrictions society to a community which is very different from the one she has being brought up.
If someone heard my story in this 21 century they will laugh to how a relationship is constructed only on the base of family values and trust. By the time I got married I was in the USA. I was with the only aim of making money and build up a good future, never thought of getting married at that point. But Mom and Dad had some other plans in mind. They asked me with the confidence of getting a very expected answer from my side, if I had in my mind of engaging to do an arranged or love marriage. My answer made them very happy and proud. The started looking for a bride in Pakistan, it was very strange for me that in couple of weeks Mom and Dad had already a girl in mind for me.
I got to see my wife to be for the first time in 6x4 picture. I liked her at first site, like the lyrics of the song from Mausam “Ho kuch pal mere naam kare woh, main bhi uske naam pe Likhoon mulakaatein kayi, Ho pehli hi takni mein bann gayi jaan pe, Naina waina uske mere dil pe chapeh, Ab jaaun kahan pe, dil ruka hai wahaan pe, Jahaan dekh ke mujhe woh aagey badh gaya oye Oh rabba main toh mar gaya oye,Shaddai mujhe kar gaya kar gaya oye”. Nowadays I wondered whether she liked mine or not? We got engaged. I asked permission to call her and at least be familiarize with her voice and if possible ways of thinking. Knowing Pinky was like discovering her, with each phone I made my anxiety and excitement of calling her was increased hundred times. I could wait the time to call her and listen to her voice. If I look back we did talk things that seems to be useless now, but back then made lots of sense. With my calls and emails time was flying, everything was so quick that by the time we realize I was on the other side of a phone line saying yes to a marriage over the phone. The adventure of getting unite to Pinky was more than an ordeal. Finally we got together in 2004 after pursuing visas for her around the globe.
I believe that Pinky becoming part of our family is proving to be a great achievement from her side. Leaving behind her family (even though the links are never broken), culture is hard enough already. She has merged herself into a totally new environment with new faces, new liberties and a new society. Her achievements goes to the extends of being working a big company and not being depend on anyone. In her personal life she is a very caring and loving wife. I couldn’t ask for someone better than her. One of uncountable attributes is her giving nature, she feels happy when I am happy, and share my bad moments with her unconditional support. I guess that comes with her culture, education and love for me. Her relationship with my family goes beyond our own relation. Pinky is one more example of being a successful woman who has come from a very strict and shallow Pakistan to richer my life with her love and affection. I hope that you stay like this forever. May Allah bless you with lots of love from my side, a long life besides me. Love you jaan! Happy Birthday!
Pinky yeh tumare liye hai:
"Tere Naam Hum Ne Kiya Hai Jeevan Aapna Sara Sanam, Sach Kehte Hain Hum... Sach Kehte Hain Hum, Kasam Se, Kasam Se,Humein Pyaar Ho Gaya,Sanam Se, Sanam Se, Tum Se Milna Baatein Karna Bada Acha Lagta Hai, Tum bin dil lagta nai ab kya karen, Peelon tere gore gore galon se" Abhi bhi bohot kuch hai lekin tum logo ne mere ...... dum kardiya hai ke chodo abb. LOve you once again.
DiL
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