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Grieving loss is at times futile. What has gone has gone. What is more important is what was left behind by the loss - a lost relative, parentage, friend, moment … what ? For, each would have its relevance.
Humans grieve the loss of near and dear ones. A moment ago they were alive and active, a moment later they are gone. Opportunities lost are disturbing as well - a frustration grows within. A lost competition, on the sports field, or any public arena is humiliating and at times capable of self destruction. But … was there a gain somewhere, a learning an example that was left behind. If yes, then grieve not. Welcome its presence, welcome its learning, welcome its ability to have taught a lesson.
One can lose face in the advent of accusation. But the value of the truth behind it shall never fade. The clearance may take time, but it prevails soon enough to counter with alarming strength, that which had feet polluted and corrupted by the dust and slush of all that was undesirable. All accusation follows similar pattern, when it rides truth. The wait is long and unbearable at times, but it presents itself alright. That momentary loss of face may seem to never rectify itself, but rectify it does …
Most those that wish for prominence have a justifiable formula - take a swipe at celebrity and gain that limited fortune of fame for that limited time. It is a design that nurtures great sympathy for those that perpetrate it. Be known for your own accomplishments, not by the cynical and abusive revelations of your own stupidity by your non accomplishments. Draw attention by what you have achieved, not by tom tomming about it, but by allowing others to notice and recognising it. When you beat your own drum you beat your dignity with reprehensible act. Ignoring such degrading temperament is the biggest defeat you can cause to the perpetrator. They have never gained attention in their lives and never will, were they to continue in such fashion. They do not even qualify for pity. They only qualify for just one single accomplishment - the joy they shall get of boiling in their own stew !!
When at fault accept, when not, wait with patience. Accusation has the benefit of lasting presence. Truth and clearance is short lived. Accusation has the ability to build a great many more stories around it. To be decorated with flowery presence and strokes of colorful verbiage. Truth has a silent firm beyond discussion closure. It has a short life.
But when accusation fails, and fail it must in the face of truth, silence is advisable, so a wise old man once guided me to believe and practice. To be proven wrong is not the most acceptable of human qualities. Wiping the accused but now clean hands, on the face of the accuser is not required or ethical. Let him drown himself in his own guilt and let us not be that last push over his head as he sinks into the water of shame.
Grieving a loss is painful … for different reasons and different people !
My love and care for all that grieve … my hand of support for those that learn from it …
DiL
Grieving loss is at times futile. What has gone has gone. What is more important is what was left behind by the loss - a lost relative, parentage, friend, moment … what ? For, each would have its relevance.
Humans grieve the loss of near and dear ones. A moment ago they were alive and active, a moment later they are gone. Opportunities lost are disturbing as well - a frustration grows within. A lost competition, on the sports field, or any public arena is humiliating and at times capable of self destruction. But … was there a gain somewhere, a learning an example that was left behind. If yes, then grieve not. Welcome its presence, welcome its learning, welcome its ability to have taught a lesson.
One can lose face in the advent of accusation. But the value of the truth behind it shall never fade. The clearance may take time, but it prevails soon enough to counter with alarming strength, that which had feet polluted and corrupted by the dust and slush of all that was undesirable. All accusation follows similar pattern, when it rides truth. The wait is long and unbearable at times, but it presents itself alright. That momentary loss of face may seem to never rectify itself, but rectify it does …
Most those that wish for prominence have a justifiable formula - take a swipe at celebrity and gain that limited fortune of fame for that limited time. It is a design that nurtures great sympathy for those that perpetrate it. Be known for your own accomplishments, not by the cynical and abusive revelations of your own stupidity by your non accomplishments. Draw attention by what you have achieved, not by tom tomming about it, but by allowing others to notice and recognising it. When you beat your own drum you beat your dignity with reprehensible act. Ignoring such degrading temperament is the biggest defeat you can cause to the perpetrator. They have never gained attention in their lives and never will, were they to continue in such fashion. They do not even qualify for pity. They only qualify for just one single accomplishment - the joy they shall get of boiling in their own stew !!
When at fault accept, when not, wait with patience. Accusation has the benefit of lasting presence. Truth and clearance is short lived. Accusation has the ability to build a great many more stories around it. To be decorated with flowery presence and strokes of colorful verbiage. Truth has a silent firm beyond discussion closure. It has a short life.
But when accusation fails, and fail it must in the face of truth, silence is advisable, so a wise old man once guided me to believe and practice. To be proven wrong is not the most acceptable of human qualities. Wiping the accused but now clean hands, on the face of the accuser is not required or ethical. Let him drown himself in his own guilt and let us not be that last push over his head as he sinks into the water of shame.
Grieving a loss is painful … for different reasons and different people !
My love and care for all that grieve … my hand of support for those that learn from it …
DiL
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